THE 'F' WORD

This is for all the people out there that their families or people they thought would be there for them through the worst times of their lives......but I’m all about family today.

Fact is we can’t choose family. That’s determined and chosen the second we are conceived in our mother's wombs. As long as she’s ovulating and responds to her hormones. (Had to get crude). From then henceforth your family is firmly ENGRAVED on STONE. From your parents, siblings to cousins, aunties, uncles, grandparents to the entire clan!! You’re even eternally tied to your ancestors no matter who they were. Such is life.

Now; we all grow up believing and knowing that as long as you got family......you're entitled to certain privileges we ‘assume’ are our rights and that applies to everyone that came way before us.
Privileges like; being loved just as you are.....being supported no matter what....being helped whenever or however....
You can imagine your brain's SHOCK when family isn’t what it used to be. Parents and relatives actually CHOOSE who to support amongst you and your siblings plus cousins and even distant relatives you didn’t even know you had!!  I mean “dad/mom!! Err.....excuse me!! Like I’m right here! Not doing so well.....so like....um....I NEED your HELP too!! Can’t you see that?! I’m worse off here!” And blah blah blah. Your silent cries turn into outbursts or tantrums or you simply shut down.
Family isn't a “privilege” our generation gets to enjoy. And I’m NOT talking about “ALL” families on this planet. But ‘most’ and the numbers are growing alarmingly. Our forefathers were beyond blessed. Nobody gave up on anybody. Especially FAMILY. Aunties, uncles and grandparents would worry about their grandchildren, nieces and nephews. Even from distant relatives and even chip in and OFFER help. In fact they would shove the help in your face whether you wanted/liked or not.

In all honesty human beings will always be human beings. We are a very ‘SPECIAL’ type of species.
We easily take things and people for granted. Even as we lose people around us friend, foe and stranger.....you’d think something would spark off in our brains to straighten atleast just one relationship in our lives and APPRECIATE this gift of life that we've been blessed with and treat each other better. Instead ‘selfishness’ is taking root and spreading like wild fire.
My heart breaks for the potential leaders, record breaking artists, next level type of innovators etc that are currently SLOWLY dying inside because you look worthless to the people around you and especially your family. Wherever you are I hope you get to read this. All hope isn’t lost. As long as you have hope. Hope that tomorrow will be better. The biggest and most fulfilling love of all is you loving yourself first. Accept that nobody's perfect. Accept your imperfections. That’s your identity. They are what make you special. Your own brand of ‘perfect’. Own it. Love it. Use it.
Family is still made up of human beings. At the end of the day everyone in it is busy fighting their own share of battles with the world and within themselves. They’ll talk you down. They’ll act like they know how to help you ‘sort’ you out but mostly give up or lose interest. Listen....accept your weaknesses and strengthen your strengths. Love yourself above all. You will most definitely attract the people you need around you. They themselves won’t understand what drew them to you. It will be LOVE. LOVE for yourself will turn the energy around you into positive energy.
Positive energy attracts human beings to it like a magnet. After all is said and done no man is an island. We all need our fellow humans one way or another.
Don’t let family acting out....acting shady.....or even kicking you out into the streets keep you from loving yourself. Many times we ask ourselves why? Stop it. As long as you’re an adult and not a kid. Work on yourself. Work hard. Love all your family members. Even the ones that let you down or didn’t believe in you and even the ones that refused to help you out outright. Love them from a distance. Let the grudges go. Let go of the bitterness. It’s cultivating into negative energy that you most definitely don’t need. Your family loves you but they're still HUMAN. We all need to realise not everyone is ‘visionary’. Otherwise we would all be very RICH. If we all saw into each other's potential. We would all invest in each other. But, alas! That's definitely not happening with this generation! Sad fact. But....you have yourself! Live! Love! Grow! Eat! Learn! Laugh!