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So here
goes…..FAMILY.
This is the essence of all our existence. Whether you are
an orphan, abandoned or you believe you have the craziest fellows in your
family and most times you feel like an outsider or adopted. Doesn’t matter. Family is family and you ended up in
that family for a reason. You might have no idea but everyone in your crazy or
MIA family plays their own unique part.
Out of my extremely observant big eye…..i have witnessed
the most dysfunctional families, the craziest and even the most broken and
detached but when push comes to shove everyone magically styles up and puts all
their differences aside to deal with the calamity, tragedy or issue that has
risen against the family.
Not one family on this planet is perfect. NOT ONE! But
the most admiral trait ‘family’ has is the fact that they’ve perfected the art
of keeping their dirty linen and weaknesses to themselves. After all, all your
issues aren’t anybody else’s business but yours so why share when most people
literally do a ‘jig’ behind your back celebrating your issues. The epitome of
green snakes in our green grass like I had so generously descriptively
described in one of my previous articles.
Enough of the mushy stories about family. We all know
family has the ability to break or build us and sadly there’s nothing we can do
about it. Relax. (all y’all raising your eyebrows. I see you). I’ll explain.
Time to expose the ‘termites’ in the foundations of our families’ proverbial
‘wood’.
So in most families we have;
The ‘thief’ or
‘thieves’. That even steal from their own siblings,cousins,parents and the rest
of the relatives given the opportunity.
The ‘drunkards/addicts’ of one substance or another and
its completely controlling their lives.
The ‘school dropouts’ ending up as liabilities or burdens
of one design or another.
The ‘gay/lesbian and even bisexual’. We can all claim
there’s no problem with these guys but we know the generation that is our
parents’ and grandparents’ are left with a bitter taste in their mouths.
Especially in our african cultures. It is still a serious stigma.
The ‘hopeless communicator’. Never answers calls or
respond to texts. Thus missing out on most family functions.
I could go on forever but none of the above is a
heartache like…
The ‘termites’ in the family. These fellows are far worse
than the hypocritical friends, colleagues and spouses. For the fact that they
are family….they already have the upper hand of knowing things a friend
wouldn’t unless you chose to tell them. But family members don’t have to wait
for you to tell. Stories have a way of spreading like wildfire between
relatives.
So the termites are far worse than the green snakes.
Atleast with a snake no matter the type of camouflage it takes to….it loses its
snakeskin. Doesn’t matter how long it hides waiting to pounce. Scientifically
and naturally, it has to grow and when that happens it sheds its old skin.
Which the cant camouflage anymore because it’s dead skin. It’s all white, off
white, brown. It completely loses its ability to hide. So obviously in green
grass that ought to stand out. (Stay with me people!)
Their counterparts the ‘termites’ are SPECIAL. Far worse
than the shedding green snakes. Termites eat wood from the inside out. You won’t
easily notice. And by the time you notice the wood is all eaten up and you have
to incur expenses to get yourself some new wood though I would advice you on
getting plastic. No hiding its defects. No animal or insect eats it. And it
either breaks, bends or burns. Either way you get to notice its defect the
minute it happens. Perfect way of life to keep out the termites and snakes of
our lives. Right? I wish!
What do the ‘termites’ of the family do? They create
mayhem. They weaken the loyalty ties within the family. They turn family
members against themselves. My big question is……to what end? To achieve what?
How these ‘termites’ manage to sleep or look at
themselves in the mirror is beyond me. Why would you go around spreading your
family issues and weaknesess plus failures to outsiders? Just because its not
you that the issue has befallen. Forgetting that our families define us to the
outside world. Especially it being so judgemental, stifling and so ready to
stick every individual with one stigma or another.
A nasty rumour arises out of nowhere about you amongst
your friends and in the family…….we would rather kill a friend than simply
accept it was either a sister or brother or first cousin who spread it. Most
times we end up cutting people from our lives because of “he/she said”. We all
got to learn something I learnt the hard way and cover your bases…..ask just one question…”when all this was being
said what were you doing or saying?” It is in human nature to do and say stupid
things especially against a loved one.
With these termites I could go on forever…. But I know my
distinguished readers are a sharp bunch. You get it.
Bottomline; we live in an era of man eat man. Survival
being strictly for the fittest; mentally, physically, emotionally and psychologically. Although, physical strength doesn’t really
count in the face of termites, green snakes, pigeons and despicable us. Sad
fact. But it is what it is.
Yours candidly;
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