YOU

Oh my God! 

I DO NOT like YOU!! 

For the life of me I CANNOT fathom WHY you casually walked into my to create a literal PANDEMONIUM in every aspect of my being! Aarrgghh.

We are often told to kick out people who add no value to our lives live in our heads rent free. Now, as far as I’m concerned YOU DO NOT add value to my life in any way, type, shape or form! But here YOU are creating CHAOS, spear heading protests and above all YOU are holding me at gunpoint with my hands tied behind my back! My ONLY initial question in my life when dealing with a human creating such TURMOIL in my life is ‘WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE'??!!

Oh! How I have asked this question!!! My pride laughs at me! My mental faculties are like....’you aren’t solving global warming might aswel let this human just 'hang' in here'. My guardian angels literally having a whole shin dig to my total and utter cry for help! God up there smirking. My ancestors be like ‘we left that human plane. Don’t involve us'. And I am GOBSMACKED! The universe and everything that’s always had my back has taken the back seat, crossed their legs and are sipping on my anguish with wanton relish! Throwing a 'cheers' every so often.

I haven’t cried yet.....I want to so I can get YOU out of my system like I do with all viruses! My system has decided YOU run this sh*t!! Oh how I curse YOU! I’ve woken up at 3am to REBUKE YOU! And I can literally hear the people in my head snickering. Aaarrggghhh. God on the other hand is like....’G this is a very powerful hr to waste prayers on this’. YOU have TESTED my faith! My relationship with God too!! You automatically have my guardian Angels  in your corner!! A monumental feat!! My people???!!! The people that move heaven and earth to protect me have embraced ‘YOU’???!!! Again begs the question....the fundamental yet super basic query....WHO ARE YOU??? Better yet....WHAT ARE YOU??? And I also have to check out the box of ‘WHO SENT YOU'??? 

All I want is to talk to you ALL the time. I have conversations with you in my head constantly. Anything that happens in my life you’re the first person I want to tell. YOU got my unique sense of humour. Caught all my puns. Conversations with you were  DIVINELY WONDROUS. Then classic Getty did what I always do and started fighting you for making me feel good. I started having tantrums and champions league type of mood swings because I NEVER know what to do or act when my emotions want to overthrow my brain. I can say it but I won’t show it which renders the words redundant. Yeah. Grow up. I know. Sigh. 

I hate not being in control in my own life. My feelings included. Any hint of mental or emotional disorganization that a human will be bring my way, I’m out the door. Anything I can't psycho analyse I can't handle. Feelings being the gate keeper of this problem. I know feelings can't be explained but the way my brain is wired....it has to make sense up there 1st so the rest of the body can be allowed to embrace it.

Other than having a blast with YOU. I DO NOT know YOU. I know absolutely NOTHING about you and here is my arsenal embracing YOU. Holding on to YOU. Yearning for YOU. Craving for YOU. Which is RIDICULOUS. My spirit KNOWS YOU. My guardian angels TRUST YOU. My God and His angels including the seven archangels won’t even listen to me when it comes to YOU. My ancestors have warned me to let them actually rest because YOU are not a threat. My mind relishes accommodating you rent free. I am on my own when it comes YOU.

I have been living in denial. Fighting even my spirit and God Himself when it comes to YOU. Nobody I explain it to understands me. Some claim ‘love portion' but I know my spirit would have repelled YOU if that was so. My guardian angels wouldn’t allow that. My mind would have shut you out because I am NOBODY’S puppet! God would have responded to my prayers like He always does. My ancestors would be up in arms. There would be an uproar in my arsenal. But it’s not business as usual with you. 

I still can’t cry. The only thing I’ve realised is YOU aren’t the usual viruses my being is used to yet it trusts YOU. So YOU weren’t brought into my life to hurt me. Clearly. Zero tears. No heartbreak. Just longing, craving, yearning and wishing. Do I care if you’re with someone else? Hmm...I’ve tried to care honestly. I genuinely don’t care. I just want YOU. In whatever capacity. The probability of showing you this are 99% NIL. YOU see that???? Right there!! That’s the crux of the matter! I’m NOT even jealous! AGAIN...what are YOU???!!!

 I hate that I can’t purge YOU from my energy. I have TRIED!!

How does this story end?? I feel like there's a lesson I should be learning with this and for the life of me I can't put my finger on it!

Will just have to ride out this tsunami I guess. My wits have abandoned me. My intuition goes suspiciously quiet when it comes to YOU. I am flying blind. Literally and figuratively. 

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MIDNIGHT SUN

The thing with life is it MOVES ON! Doesn't matter if you think yours has stopped. As long as your heartbeat is still beating away.....life goes on.

You might be having a terrible day. Grieving the loss of a loved one. Lost your job. Declared bankrupt. Getting divorced. The list is basically endless. The point still is life goes on.

I know those days you don't want to leave your bed. When you don't even want to get up from under the covers. Then the're the nights your sure the sun won't come up because your entire world was just turned upside down. The days when you can't stand seeing anyone; even family, spouse or even your close friends. Been there myself several times.

Then the're the broken heart periods when your sure your heart is too shattered to keep going. Or your brain is too fried with stress to keep functioning. Incredible thing is they keep going! They might not work at 1000% but they don't stop.

Im in awe how day turns into night and vice versa no matter what. I was in a really dark place awhile ago.....and in that storm/tornado/hurricane in that point in my life I discovered my strength.

It was dark. It was scary. It was lonely because nobody truly understands the issues we have. (They can relate. They can empathise. They can be sympathetic. They can make themselves available for you or lend you a shoulder to lean on or a patient ear. But....they never really get the crux of the matter.). It was mind numbing. It was emotionally crippling. But. EVERYTHING around me was alive! Everyone was living their lives despite their losses, pain and grievances. Some even had the strength to smile through.

Then life decided it was tired of living me behind and my brain began to work faster. I remembered what I still had despite my loss or pain or any other issues. In the darkest of nights my sun came up. Life moved on within me despite the issues that had threatened my performance. My purpose.

Im no expert but life really does go on. Every single minute of everyday everyone around you is fighting a battle you know nothing about. But they get up and keep it moving.

Take all the time you need to heal. Then dust yourself off and keep it moving. Life's not easy but it's definitely precious. We only get one. Find your midnight Sun and hold on to it.

Human beings are phenomenal. We are at the top of the food chain with good reason. We're legit.

Whatever it is.....You'll pull through. You're HUMAN. Your midnight Sun is on its way to your rescue.


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TICK TOCK

I can't breathe.
I can't eat.
I can't think.
Im drowning in my own tears.
My heart keeps stopping.
Nobody warned me.
Nobody prepared me.
Im stuck.
Im lost.
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I don't know tomorrow.
I don't even know the next hr.
I know nothing.
I'm still lost.
I'm bleeding.
I'm on life support.
Literally.

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The promises, now empty.
They were sweet,yes. Sweet nothings.
Forever? Hahaha. Yes. Forever in debt to promises not kept.

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What doesn't kill you....moulds you.
Promises not kept.....build walls.
I don't know what to do but I'm alive and that gives me hope.
Hope that tomorrow will be better.
Hope that tomorrow I'll get a promise that'll be kept.
Hope that tomorrow will bring healing.

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It will be well.
It has to be.
There's no other way.
The Ashes.
The tears.
The broken pieces.
The long nights.
The bleak days.

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All will be accounted for.
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WATU NA VIATU

 In swahili there's a saying that says 'kuna watu na viatu'. Direct translation is 'there are people and there are shoes'. As in; there are people and then there are people that don't actually behave as per the norm of the expected civilised human.

People that are selfish. Hypocritical. Negative zero common human courtesy (that isn't so common lately). Professional/pathological liars. Thrive off on negative energy and senseless drama. Low self-esteem. Always miserable. I could go on but I wouldn't want to bore you.
I just recently realised that particular type of human beings are the most toxic, the least progressive in any department of their lives and the most LONELY individuals! I'm I sympathising with this particular species? Definitely NOT.  I PITY them. They're so MISERABLE and TOXIC that they're allergic to good things. They're allergic to build or be near good vibes, positive energy, progressive milestones or even have good relationships with the people in their lives.

Then I also realised the truth literally KILLS them! Like they don't like the truth especially if it's positive in any way,type,shape or form. They're happier to fabricate positive truth with negative. They just gotta taint it. Its incredible! Like I personally believe that's a gift. Then they work overtime in tearing people's self-esteem to bring them down to add to their numbers in 'misery ville'. We all know or have heard of the popular saying that goes...'misery loves company'.

So I'm currently at the conclusion that....we all get discouraged at some point. We all get betrayed. We all get abandoned by the people we'd take a bullet for when we need their help the most. Even by family! We all get alienated for one stupid reason or another. We all get humiliated and insulted at some point. And its ok. I mean l know life isn't perfect. I know human beings are hardwired to be really shady and even cruel. Nobody asks to be treated that way even by their enemies.

No matter how terribly you're treated it's NOT your fault. You have to understand that. Wether you made a mistake or not. (Y'all busy rolling your eyes now I know. Lol). We human beings are at the top of the food chain but we don't even treat trees right! We don't treat the soil that grows our food right! Food that we NEED as much as we need oxygen!! Thus treating each other has deteriorated inexplicably. So whoever you wrong or didn't wrong has the choice to come at with both guns blazing or walk away and let karma have a go at you. Coz that b***h doesn't miss! She knows everyone's address; even if you're homeless.

If I'm sounding all high and mighty. Forgive me. Im furthest from it. I lash out like anyone. But I'm terrible at holding grudges. Grudges are exhausting. They're heavy. And I'm too lazy to keep carrying them. Im just sharing what I've recently realised. Toxic people have a foundation for their behaviour and they built on it instead of breaking free. Misery loves company that's why miserable people will flog you with their experience in that dept.
So as they attack you or lash out.....ask yourself.....'how were they raised?'......'how were they socially as kids?'......'who hurt them?!' There has to be a story behind the negativity, the toxicity, the misery, the low self-esteem, the LIES. There's got to be a story as to why they work extra hard to spread and pour out all that poisonous energy into all their relationships. At work,at home, in their social interactions and some even to their kids.
And sometimes I have ask myself how much do they get paid?! Do they get richer?! Or they simply add the numbers of the people who'd gladly sprint away from them?!

Yours truly:

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THE 'D' GRADE. (cause it's father's day!!)

First and foremost...
HAPPIEST FATHER’S DAY TO ALL THE FATHERS AND MOTHERS FILLING BOTH SHOES!!!
Now this ‘D’ grade is all about the father’s that actually stuck around and earned themselves the sterling ‘Daddy’ name.
Almost every male human being on earth can be a father but it takes a whole other breed of male humans to make a ‘Daddy’. (Get your minds out of the gutter people! It’s father's day!!)
I have been blessed with the most INVOLVED dad that it gets annoying almost everyday and every hour if he wasn’t busy. Growing up it was really suffocating. But now as an adult I truly APPRECIATE him. I’ve grown up with friends who talk to their fathers out of a sense of ‘duty’. Others because society and culture and religious teachings tell us we should answer when called by an adult and especially your parent. I love my father. No matter how long his calls get..
..i cherish them. Plus he’s really ENTERTAINING!! Hihihi. I get some of my creativity and theatrics from him. I’m not saying we don’t fuss and fight. We do! We are both stubborn, love having things our way and we definitely have very parallel ways of looking at life and living it. But he’s my first love. He made sure I understood that on my bad days he is there. Whether I like it or not. He makes sure during my heart breaks....(i never tell him but he always knows)...he reminds me over and over how beautiful iam and how lucky any man would be to have me. This man right here fights even ME and my stubborn and rebellious self just to keep me close. Why would I settle for less?! I LOVE YOU DAD. No matter what happens I APPRECIATE you.
Now both my parents have helped raised most of my orphaned or abandoned cousins and even non relatives. And they are even more ‘nosy’ (And I mean that in the most affectionate way) with all their adopted children. There’s just this one problem.....the abandoned children they’ve raised have fathers. Now it got to a place the fathers started reaching out and my parents refused to let them into their biological children's lives. I also thought it was to protect my adopted siblings but as an adult and with all the ‘daddy issues’ loitering around I’ve realised my parents might have thought it was for the best but it never was.
Why? Because my adopted siblings are carrying around lethal portions of bitterness and resentment towards their biological parents and even extended relatives at large. Asking “why didn’t you come for us?” “Why didn’t you fight hard enough to get us?” “where have you been?” “what was so important?” And what have you. Which is natural. We all want people who claim to love us or who should love whether they want to or not (our parents) to actually fight for us. As an adult I now understand that our parents shape us into the human beings we are or still becoming and there’s nothing we can do about it. If you have a great dad you want be like him when you grow up and even emulate him in bringing up your children and how you treat women. Then if he’s just a terrible person. He abandoned you. He was there but never provided. Never supported you. You couldn't  even talk to him and he was right there. Or if he was a drunkard or junkie. Or never treated your mother well......all these negatives will make you want to be better than him. Be a better man for yourself, your spouse and even your children. But! Some actually take this as an example and follow in those  negative footsteps. Either way our parents shape us into the human beings we become.
My simple suggestion....don’t hide your children from their biological fathers or mothers and relatives. Don’t be the reason they don’t know their roots. Don’t stand in their way of growth. Let them decide. You can only guide and counsel them. You can’t change their DNA no matter what. So you laid the bed now you got to lie in It!! Respect your children's heritage! Whether their fathers earn the sterling ‘D’ grade or not is up to them!

 Happy father’s day once again to the sterling Dads out there!!!

THEE 'V' MONOLOGUES (part 1).

I'm calling this upcoming series.....thee 'V' monologues' meaning....thee 'VENTING' monologues. A girl has got to vent at some point anyway.

There’s a particular ‘human being’ I was quite unfortunate to encounter in my journey of this life.
This human being has all the makings of a bad egg plant. ‘Eeww’?! I know! Anyways so we were ‘friends’ or rather I ASSUMED so. We got to know each other.....blah blah. The usual customary shenanigans that go with any new friendship. Then out of nowhere she starts creating issues and I’m like ‘whoa!’ what in the world is going on here?! Any usual reaction. Right? And the worst part is I personally was never confronted. Though confronting is usually not an easy feat. But as ‘friends’ that shouldn’t be a problem. I mean...you ‘know’ me. Ehe, so she takes the issue to the public. It gets back to me ofcourse. Then the ‘confrontation’ meet is held finally. And this human being can’t solidly express the issue she's got with me and I lost it. Like seriously, don’t come for me if you ain’t got anything solid to throw my way.

Bottom line is;
 1) MY LIFE doesn’t revolve around You! I actually have a life. I have my beauty sleep to keep up with. I have my hustle I’m working on. I have other relationships to tend to....etc.

2) Herself was never a day she actually came through for me. None. It’s been a year now by the way. And I’ve replayed that short period over and over and yes....heifer. You never came through. Best be sure.

3) I’m so sorry for ever coming across your particular type of ‘heifersm’. Because to be honest I insulted my INTELLECT. I insulted my upbringing. I can now thank my folks for their PERSISTENCE in discipline socially and otherwise.

4) My mistake was my misplaced loyalty. Especially in fighting your battles that never even concerned me. In fact I was never there when you picked them. Should have noticed the glaring fact that you never keep friends. But I wasn’t built to judge. Most unfortunate!
I fight a good fight. Verbally and physically but above all I write best. And you were never worth even the time leave alone the energy.
Moral: No matter what NEVER ever let anyone take you for a joy ride. Life is way too short for joyrides. I’m not talking about relationships. Those are a whole different story. That i’ll get to soon.
Don’t let friendships bring you down simply because they can. Pick your struggles. Pick your fights. You’ve got your gut feeling or your instincts. TRUST them! We all have 999 problems and draining friendships shouldn’t be one.
This particular type of ‘human beings’ will use you then when they're done...they’ll act you did them wrong and leave things messy as they move on to ‘USE’ someone else. It’s never you. It’s them. Let’s learn from our mistakes.

Yours Uncensored.

(stay tuned😈).

THE 'F' WORD

This is for all the people out there that their families or people they thought would be there for them through the worst times of their lives......but I’m all about family today.

Fact is we can’t choose family. That’s determined and chosen the second we are conceived in our mother's wombs. As long as she’s ovulating and responds to her hormones. (Had to get crude). From then henceforth your family is firmly ENGRAVED on STONE. From your parents, siblings to cousins, aunties, uncles, grandparents to the entire clan!! You’re even eternally tied to your ancestors no matter who they were. Such is life.

Now; we all grow up believing and knowing that as long as you got family......you're entitled to certain privileges we ‘assume’ are our rights and that applies to everyone that came way before us.
Privileges like; being loved just as you are.....being supported no matter what....being helped whenever or however....
You can imagine your brain's SHOCK when family isn’t what it used to be. Parents and relatives actually CHOOSE who to support amongst you and your siblings plus cousins and even distant relatives you didn’t even know you had!!  I mean “dad/mom!! Err.....excuse me!! Like I’m right here! Not doing so well.....so like....um....I NEED your HELP too!! Can’t you see that?! I’m worse off here!” And blah blah blah. Your silent cries turn into outbursts or tantrums or you simply shut down.
Family isn't a “privilege” our generation gets to enjoy. And I’m NOT talking about “ALL” families on this planet. But ‘most’ and the numbers are growing alarmingly. Our forefathers were beyond blessed. Nobody gave up on anybody. Especially FAMILY. Aunties, uncles and grandparents would worry about their grandchildren, nieces and nephews. Even from distant relatives and even chip in and OFFER help. In fact they would shove the help in your face whether you wanted/liked or not.

In all honesty human beings will always be human beings. We are a very ‘SPECIAL’ type of species.
We easily take things and people for granted. Even as we lose people around us friend, foe and stranger.....you’d think something would spark off in our brains to straighten atleast just one relationship in our lives and APPRECIATE this gift of life that we've been blessed with and treat each other better. Instead ‘selfishness’ is taking root and spreading like wild fire.
My heart breaks for the potential leaders, record breaking artists, next level type of innovators etc that are currently SLOWLY dying inside because you look worthless to the people around you and especially your family. Wherever you are I hope you get to read this. All hope isn’t lost. As long as you have hope. Hope that tomorrow will be better. The biggest and most fulfilling love of all is you loving yourself first. Accept that nobody's perfect. Accept your imperfections. That’s your identity. They are what make you special. Your own brand of ‘perfect’. Own it. Love it. Use it.
Family is still made up of human beings. At the end of the day everyone in it is busy fighting their own share of battles with the world and within themselves. They’ll talk you down. They’ll act like they know how to help you ‘sort’ you out but mostly give up or lose interest. Listen....accept your weaknesses and strengthen your strengths. Love yourself above all. You will most definitely attract the people you need around you. They themselves won’t understand what drew them to you. It will be LOVE. LOVE for yourself will turn the energy around you into positive energy.
Positive energy attracts human beings to it like a magnet. After all is said and done no man is an island. We all need our fellow humans one way or another.
Don’t let family acting out....acting shady.....or even kicking you out into the streets keep you from loving yourself. Many times we ask ourselves why? Stop it. As long as you’re an adult and not a kid. Work on yourself. Work hard. Love all your family members. Even the ones that let you down or didn’t believe in you and even the ones that refused to help you out outright. Love them from a distance. Let the grudges go. Let go of the bitterness. It’s cultivating into negative energy that you most definitely don’t need. Your family loves you but they're still HUMAN. We all need to realise not everyone is ‘visionary’. Otherwise we would all be very RICH. If we all saw into each other's potential. We would all invest in each other. But, alas! That's definitely not happening with this generation! Sad fact. But....you have yourself! Live! Love! Grow! Eat! Learn! Laugh!

                 

TEACHER TEACHETH

   

For most of my late tens......(yes 'tens'. The years between 1 and 10.) I've  heard many of my teachers and the adults in my life say over and over how 'experience is the best teacher' and I never fully grasped its meaning then until recently.
Sure you can play with actual fire as a Baby and realize it's no toy. That it burns and leaves you in pain and most importantly....it leaves you with scars. A permanent painful reminder. So with that experience....you learn to avoid it. Thus the 'teacher teacheth'.

Now...in my present years....im far more 'experienced' with the phrase. And it just suddenly hit me that people often drop the phrase around and we the receivers don't really give it much thought. When we actually should. This phrase is usually used when words fail our 'advisers' or the shoulders we are crying on.

Let me cut to the chase. Life's SHORT! And 2016 just confirmed it. Not many of us can even whisper to ourselves what we've done this year that we'd set out to do with our new year resolutions or them 'to-do lists'. Some of us didn't ditch the douche bags or the infamous *fuck boys*. Others are still in abusive relationships. And many other 'sob' stories.
Here's what I need to say....im not a psychologist nor a therapist or even a life coach but I know for sure that 'experience truly is the best teacher'. But we don't acknowledge that simple fact. We instead take cover in 'what doesn't kill me makes me stronger'. Honestly there are a billion situations where that just doesn't apply. Would you jump in front of a bus to check if you'll die?! 

When your spouse is cheating and you find out...how does it make you feel?! When someone male/female walks into your life and uses you plus your resources and most likely ruin your other relationships.....how does it make you feel?! When someone you trust steala from you....how does it make you feel?! When you're trying to date but the guy or girl is all over the place and acting shady....how does that make you feel?! When you lose your one source of income.......or someone you care about....how does that make you feel?!
I'm not here to give you solutions or tell how you should feel. Or blame the people that brought you misery. That's not the objective here.

I just need you to embrace your hurt,your pain,your betrayal,your loss......feel it. And ask yourself; do I love feeling like this? Do I like being betrayed? Do I enjoy being bullied? Do I like being abused? If the answer is no. Then say NO. Not only to yourself but to the situation. We can't live our lives trying to change people or make excuses for them. They made their mistakes when they hurt you, abused you,used you,stole from you......(they can steal your happiness,freedom...etc. doesn't have to be material things only).

So because your own life, happiness, freedom,peace and general well-being is of absolute priority.....do the SIMPLEST thing ever. Just REMOVE yourself from the negativity. Simple as that. Because you can't change a human being's behaviour. They must want to change. Otherwise you'll be hollering 'giddy up!!!!' To a dead horse and life's too short not to live it making yourself happy.

But if you enjoy pain and love the feeling of people oppressing you, exploiting you and your resources then please don't let me stop you. Keep making your mistakes. Live off of your mistakes. Let your mistakes keep you away from being the very best you can be. Keep 'experiencing' your mistakes and at your own time.....you will stop thriving on 'what doesn't kill me makes me stronger'.

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LIVE LOVE LEARN

Always wondered why your mere existence makes some and most likely MOST of the people around you and even your own family green with the eyed monster famously known as ENVY or simply bat shit crazy?!

Out of the yellows human beings you were sure were your friends and the others….you literally share DNA with start being quardripolar,malicious,vindictive and simply give the chameleon a run for its ability to change to whatever its environs are!!
Well worry no more…...its a SIMPLE fact that after repetition from my pastor that I finally understood what was going on. Nobody and I mean NOBODY throws stones at a barren tree. People are always throwing stones at trees that bear fruits.

Live not in anguish anymore. Live not in fright no more. You can tell them off as much as you want to when you discover them. Hell, I'm not the person to tell you not to cause I do it myself like I studied for it. Hehehe.
Drop the dead weight. Cut them off! Life's way too short to keep hindrances,nuisances and especially enemies of your progress in your life.

Learn to love your own company. Do what your good at. Them green eyed monster human beings will try to close doors quite openly when the battle lines have been drawn but fear not. Work with all you’ve at whatever your working at or what your working towards. And most IMPORTANTLY keep it to yourself!!!

Sadly it is human nature to want people to do well but not better than them. So to hell with the nay sayers, the disbelievers and the haters.
Infact the haters are just bitter cause you got what they’d love to have and will work tirelessly to break you down psychologically,emotionally,mentally and even spiritually.
Keep your head high,shoulders and back and your genuine cheer leaders CLOSE. Not forgetting your mentors (if you have any).

Yours truly singlepolarly,

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TERMITE TERRITORY.

   So here goes…..FAMILY.

This is the essence of all our existence. Whether you are an orphan, abandoned or you believe you have the craziest fellows in your family and most times you feel like an outsider or adopted. Doesn’t  matter. Family is family and you ended up in that family for a reason. You might have no idea but everyone in your crazy or MIA family plays their own unique part.

Out of my extremely observant big eye…..i have witnessed the most dysfunctional families, the craziest and even the most broken and detached but when push comes to shove everyone magically styles up and puts all their differences aside to deal with the calamity, tragedy or issue that has risen against the family.

Not one family on this planet is perfect. NOT ONE! But the most admiral trait ‘family’ has is the fact that they’ve perfected the art of keeping their dirty linen and weaknesses to themselves. After all, all your issues aren’t anybody else’s business but yours so why share when most people literally do a ‘jig’ behind your back celebrating your issues. The epitome of green snakes in our green grass like I had so generously descriptively described in one of my previous articles.

Enough of the mushy stories about family. We all know family has the ability to break or build us and sadly there’s nothing we can do about it. Relax. (all y’all raising your eyebrows. I see you). I’ll explain. Time to expose the ‘termites’ in the foundations of our families’ proverbial ‘wood’.

So in most families we have;

 The ‘thief’ or ‘thieves’. That even steal from their own siblings,cousins,parents and the rest of the relatives given the opportunity.

The ‘drunkards/addicts’ of one substance or another and its completely controlling their lives.

The ‘school dropouts’ ending up as liabilities or burdens of one design or another.

The ‘gay/lesbian and even bisexual’. We can all claim there’s no problem with these guys but we know the generation that is our parents’ and grandparents’ are left with a bitter taste in their mouths. Especially in our african cultures. It is still a serious stigma.

The ‘hopeless communicator’. Never answers calls or respond to texts. Thus missing out on most family functions.

I could go on forever but none of the above is a heartache like…

The ‘termites’ in the family. These fellows are far worse than the hypocritical friends, colleagues and spouses. For the fact that they are family….they already have the upper hand of knowing things a friend wouldn’t unless you chose to tell them. But family members don’t have to wait for you to tell. Stories have a way of spreading like wildfire between relatives.

So the termites are far worse than the green snakes. Atleast with a snake no matter the type of camouflage it takes to….it loses its snakeskin. Doesn’t matter how long it hides waiting to pounce. Scientifically and naturally, it has to grow and when that happens it sheds its old skin. Which the cant camouflage anymore because it’s dead skin. It’s all white, off white, brown. It completely loses its ability to hide. So obviously in green grass that ought to stand out. (Stay with me people!)

Their counterparts the ‘termites’ are SPECIAL. Far worse than the shedding green snakes. Termites eat wood from the inside out. You won’t easily notice. And by the time you notice the wood is all eaten up and you have to incur expenses to get yourself some new wood though I would advice you on getting plastic. No hiding its defects. No animal or insect eats it. And it either breaks, bends or burns. Either way you get to notice its defect the minute it happens. Perfect way of life to keep out the termites and snakes of our lives. Right? I wish!

What do the ‘termites’ of the family do? They create mayhem. They weaken the loyalty ties within the family. They turn family members against themselves. My big question is……to what end? To achieve what?

How these ‘termites’ manage to sleep or look at themselves in the mirror is beyond me. Why would you go around spreading your family issues and weaknesess plus failures to outsiders? Just because its not you that the issue has befallen. Forgetting that our families define us to the outside world. Especially it being so judgemental, stifling and so ready to stick every individual with one stigma or another.

A nasty rumour arises out of nowhere about you amongst your friends and in the family…….we would rather kill a friend than simply accept it was either a sister or brother or first cousin who spread it. Most times we end up cutting people from our lives because of “he/she said”. We all got to learn something I learnt the hard way and cover your bases…..ask  just one question…”when all this was being said what were you doing or saying?” It is in human nature to do and say stupid things especially against a loved one.

With these termites I could go on forever…. But I know my distinguished readers are a sharp bunch. You get it.

Bottomline; we live in an era of man eat man. Survival being strictly for the fittest; mentally, physically, emotionally and psychologically.  Although, physical strength doesn’t really count in the face of termites, green snakes, pigeons and despicable us. Sad fact. But it is what it is.

                                                Yours candidly;

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P.S: I STILL LOVE YOU

Its been ages; my bad.

So I have been ‘observing’ a whole lot of myself. I took time out  and checked myself out.

There’s no doubt that im a work in progress.

Im what I like to call an ‘uncut diamond’. I am mostly the ‘what you see is what you get’ type of person and that is changing. Negatively? I have no idea but most definitely I am learning that NO ONE gets what they give so fiercely, is what one gets in return.

I was ALL loyalty and no tolerance for anyone who was the tiniest bit ‘disloyal’ if I considered your actions leaned into that category. It didn’t matter what my parents, siblings, friends, relatives had done to warrant your reaction. And now im just here like…eerrrr….(crickets) what type of life was i living? I never once stopped to think that the other party apart from my loved could actually have every right to go on and retaliate or act out the way they did due to the offence made by my ‘loved ones’. (iam using that term very loosely). I wasn’t living my life I was living theirs. I couldn’t talk or associate with people who could have probably added value In my life because someone not really doing much in my life was having issues with that person. So I concluded I wasn’t being loyal. I was being STUPID. Especially when the person you are defending turns around and literally bites off your nose! Because waiting for you to turn your back so they bite your ass is taking too long!

Apart from that I have also realized im not a good friend anymore. I am making my really old friends and the new friends I have made and still making PAY for some of my ‘friends’ mistakes. I just want to tell you all now that those that feel like i swept you under the rug that you aren't the problem…..IAM!

Accepting my mistakes will hopefully heal my issues. I am not only cautious but gotten literally FRIGHTENED. I have had people walk into my life to get the little I have to offer and run right back out. I don’t easily share my ‘dysfunctional’ family issues orANY of my other issues because in all HONESTY its none of any one’s business. But when I do you and you go preaching the gospel around then we automatically stop being friends. That’s just WRONG.

I have been on a journey of self analyzation and self preservation for 2years. In this period I have lost,gained and retained friendships. Some constructive and others quite destructive. I have come to realise that there are certain friends for certain departments of your life. Not all friends can handle ALL parts of you. So when you are asked to pick them wisely…..find out where who belongs. Not completely cut everyone off because they couldn’t handle ALL your parts. They are human after all and when it comes to ‘endurance’, ‘tolerance’, ‘loyalty’ and the plain crude ‘honesty’ humanity has the best track record of sprinting as furthest from you as possible. If you want such a friend get a dog. Please!

I am the champion of champions when it comes to cutting people off and the paragraph above is what I have learnt. The hard way. Mind you im not saying keep around people whom you are sure are drilling holes in your boat. Lets all just wisen up.

I have a very interesting brain. My brain just goes into OVERDRIVE when I smell anything fishy that my so called friend is upto and I WAIT tirelessly to CONFIRM my observations or instincts about your transgressions. Then when I pounce on you with my allegations and most times facts my brain SHUTS DOWN. It just completely SHUTS YOU OUT.  I have realized my brain cant hack stress . No matter how many times a third party tries to make me repair a burnt bridge I just cant. As long as your issue undergoing some type of processing in my head…..i CANNOT look at you let alone trying to work something out with you.

I love fiercely but sprint away even more fiercely when burnt and I have third degree burns of all sorts from people I once gave myself to wholeheartedly. I have been loyal to a fault to so many people who didn’t deserve it and now the people that could actually use it and need it I cant afford to give it to them because im just  ‘over it’. Like, it doesn’t matter anymore. Like, ‘who cares’???

I should have learnt much earlier to put people where they belong in my life. It would have saved me the headaches and heartaches. Problem is the green snakes in our green grass are the best actresses and actors not forgetting with the sweetest tongues.  The oscars in hollywood and the recognition that comes with it is going to the WRONG people. These snakes deserve recognition and some awards coz they do it like they are being paid!

I have missed my friends weddings, baby showers and bachelorette parties in my lifetime and I just need to say I AM SORRY. To all my friends and everyone who considers me a friend to him or her and my family that feels I let them down by being aloof , passive and not at all interested in the milestones in their lives and everything else. I AM TRULY, ABSOLUTELY, COMPLETELY AND TOTALLY SORRY. This is me telling you all now that I know I have pushed most of you away with my silence and inability to commit to be with you when you need me to. if you were wondering what you did wrong that I haven't confronted you with it then you should know that its not you. I am. All relationships need EFFORT and I have been slacking. And as my friends or frenemies we all know that if I had an issue with ou….confronting you wouldn’t be it. HEHEHE.

Iam working towards stopping you from paying for other people’s mistakes in my past and present.  You people are truly remarkable. You still call in or text to check in on me and your patience humbles me. As much as I know how fabulous I already am!! Lol. No pun intended.  A more ‘organised’ Getty has been conceived.

P.S: I STILL LOVE YOU ALL.

                                                                             With Love;

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British baby shocks medical profession!!

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PIGEONS TAKE FLIGHT.

We all know the pigeon….this bird can make uncharacteristic loud noises.

This bird is also one UNSTABLE creature….even a little breeze leave alone wind makes it take flight. So of course you are all wondering where this going…..well we have human beings loitering around with this particular bird’s less attractive characteristics and qualities.

As it is with human nature….WE ALL NEED LOVE. We search for it. We crave it. We yearn for it. We thirst for it. In some cases it gets really crazy. Where people go through GRIEF to take abuse and tolerate things and situations which they wouldn’t tolerate on any normal day just to have that ‘illusion’ of love around you or with you.

Im not an expert on love and like I have stated in my previous articles….LOYALTY is part of the cornerstones of love. I have witnessed a whole lot of people sleeping around in the hope of something evolving from the ‘one-night stand’ or ‘fling’ or ‘friends with benefits’. Which usually never end up in something meaningful. We should learn to state our business. Literally. No need to string someone along and toy with their feelings that’s just downright inhuman.

What do I mean by ‘we should state our business’……if you are old enough to be having sex then you are old enough to know that feelings HURT!! Especially when not reciprocated. I mean if you are out to just have fun then SAY it!! Let the other party decide if they can handle that. If you are tired of games and waking up in different beds with different partners then STATE IT! If you have a girlfriend/boyfriend but fidelity is not your virtue….then please let the ‘side-whatever’ KNOW! At times we get ourselves into situations that are seriously UNNECESSARY. You attract what you project.

IM NOT PROMOTING INFIDELITY. Im just saying let’s stop putting ourselves in highly volatile and unnecessary and situations. Because honestly so many of us out there are just busy ending up in bed with different partners then catching feelings and ending up in SITUATIONSHIPS!! And the question is…..WHAT FOR??

If people knew how SACRED, IMPORTANT and VALUABLE sex/making love is….you wouldn’t be having it with just anyone. Plus there’s HYGEINE to be considered!!

After all that ‘romping’…..who has your back??? Who can you call in the middle of the night for help?? Who would come to see you when you are sick?? Who would hold you when your life is chaotic? Do you really need ‘pigeons’ in your life? Pigeons who take flight at the first sign of trouble? I don’t think so.

What we all NEED is a SPHINX who’ll hold down the fort while our worlds are crushing down around us. Someone who’ll love you even when you don’t love yourself. Someone who’ll believe in you when you don’t believe in yourself and probably being ridiculed by the society.

Most people don’t believe such people exist….truth is they do….but they don’t come easy as your ‘romp’ buddies. You will only find them or they find you when you stop being a pigeon yourself. Clean out your closet. Raise your own standards by ditching all the bad detrimental habits.

Let the pigeons in you GO!!

Anyone who’s in your life and wants to leave….let them GO! If they come back..well and good. Sometimes some things need to fall apart in order to fall back together. Don’t cage a pigeon!! Its MISERY your breeding.

If you TRULY gave any relationship in your life everything you’ve got and someone still wants to exit for some mistake you made and can’t seem to get over it….let them GO! Let that be their mistake. The harsh reality check they’ll get out there will be their cross to carry.

The other characteristic of a pigeon that I haven’t mentioned and most people don’t know is that they are INTELLIGENT enough to know where ‘HOME’ is…….set your pigeon free if it wants to take flight….if you are where home is…they’ll be back problem is they aren’t all that ‘punctual’.

So who needs a ‘late’ pigeon when you have a rock solid SPHINX?? Doesn’t even have to be ‘punctual’.

Let’s stop the pigeon act ourselves first.

Then let’s LET GO of the pigeons in our lives.

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THE FAULT IN OUR 'STARS'.

R ‘STARS’

Been battling with a particular issue for several months now…..i genuinely don’t know how to express it or what to think of it. All I know is that its SAD. To the extent that it left me SPEECHLESS and anyone who knows me well that RARELY happens.

So this particular issue has got a lot to do with friendship. Yes ‘friendship’. This particular term appears to have lost meaning. Genuinely. Then the most overrated term is the famous ‘BFF’ (Best Friends Forever). And I im about to use this term very loosely in conjuction with the series of dumbfounding events that have transpired for close to a year now.

There are many crimes, mistakes, transgressions and trespasses I have made in my lifetime but one mistake no one can ever accuse me of in this lifetime or the next is DISLOYALTY. Yet as life being the ‘bitch’ she is would have it….i ended up being accused of this heinous crime. Im using the word ‘henious’ because I GENUINELY despise hypocrisy and ADORE loyalty. So im just here….like…err…..FLABBERGASTED. Absolutely, sincerely, honestly etc.

I have made a stand especially with this particular trait that has gotten so SCARCE with our generation and ofcourse I lost friends and even people I loved because honestly it doesn’t cost a thing yet so valuable but here we are acting like it doesn’t matter. Like we can leave without it but truth be told no man is an island. No money in the world can buy it. No amount of relationships can ever survive without it. People keep trying and failing. So if its that worthless why cant we live without it??? Because truth be told whether we like it or not……the epitome of ‘TRUE LOVE’ is LOYALTY. You cannot love someone if you can't be loyal to that person. It’s a LIE.

So I have been having this ‘BFF’ type of friendship for close to 20 years now….or rather had. Then my BFF just goes MUTE on me and I knowing when im not wanted…..i kept I my distance for over 6 months. Made me wonder if we ever BFFs in the 1^st place.

Then the already ‘frozen titanic’ hit the tip of an ‘iceberg’ and a whole GIGANTIC, HUMONGOUS iceberg that was obviously hidden underneath came to life and of course with women the ‘claws’ came out. And a whole lot of ‘ice’ (accusations) started flying all over the already FROZEN sea.

So apparently out of close to 20 years Gertrude cant seem to keep her mouth shut about her ‘BFF’…….and im just here like what in the world im I saying after 20 years that I never said before??? Why now?? I had 20 years to do the ‘talking’! And everyone who knows im a PASSIONATE SPEAKER!!

Then I had an EPIPHANY!!! My ‘BFF’ and I had always led different lives throughout our friendship! We both belonged to different circles and had diverse different friends that hardly ever mixed. And everyone RESPECTED and even FEARED our friendship. Then as fate would have it…our friendship got thrown into a group of ‘SHARKS’. LITERALLY. Where we had to work and ‘hang out’ constantly in the same circle due to some venture we were pursuing.

So in actual sense our friendship had never been tried and tested. Sure it got scratched….thanks to life throwing around lemons. But our friendship had never gotten an actual SMACK DOWN. So honestly our friendship finally got a piece of the pie and got it PROPERLY.

But that’s not the issue. The issue here is……if a friendship as old as ours didn’t survive the smack down and with its ‘BFF’ status what does that mean??? Were we ever really friends?!

So lets get CANDID. Or rather….UNCENSORED…..I have never taken a beating lying down and I sure wont start now! You accused me of spreading the gospel about your personal stuff and issues you were going through at that particular time. PRECISELY at that particular time. NOT all the previous 19 years. Correct? Ok. The TRILLION dollar question here is can you for the life of Christ claim just one particular issue you had at the time that you told me ALONE??? Just ONE. And you heard it elsewhere??

My darling ‘BFF’ truth be told you got very comfortable spreading the gospel with EVERYONE who would listen. And the SAME me preaching it was the one who would chew your head off about telling people who were very much celebrating behind your back! You gave details that I prided myself as your ‘BFF’ to carry them. But I would be left DUMBFOUNDED when I find myself seated with people who were even discussing the same things you had confided in me. And I was just left wondering……WTF?!????!!!???!! You should have just gone on and posted them on Al Jazeera! There was clearly NOTHING ‘confidential’ about them. Then as the mask falls off you had the audacity to tell me that you asked me ‘indirectly’?! SERIOUSLY?? Since when did you and I ask each other ANYTHING ‘INDIRECTLY’????

So after all is said and done…..you’ve got people in your boat drilling holes.

We missed phenomenal changes and achievements of each other’s lives because you couldn’t sit me down like an adult and ‘DIRECTLY’ pour out your grievances and we see the whether we would have moved on and grown stronger or simply agree to disagree and move on separately in peace.

Such is the ill fate that befell our 20yr old friendship. I still love but I hate you at the same time.

Time heals all wounds and im counting on it to work faster in this case.

Yours,

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HATING

Honestly I'm just left dumbfounded by the little things human beings would go to great lengths to turn something or someone awesome into something negative or find ways to ridicule them or 'it'.

There are genuine haters out there no lie. For some people: you are just a pathological liar with really shallow thinking and are just mentally WEAK with no solid character and a very shaky personality with very little or no substance! No one likes you! Don't get it twisted and call people haters when you genuinely disgust them and call their creative criticism 'hating' when if you'd actually hear them out it would help you. WAKE UP!

Personally, I've been stung relentlessly and at times I was led to believe that honestly something is wrong with me. I have two faults that at times I often regret one and other really rare times I'm left to question if I should work on relinquishing the other. These two unique faults are....the first is the fact that I love myself unconditionally inside and out. The second is I've got the abnormal tendency of being abnormally LOYAL even when most people don't deserve even an iota of it!

They'll come crying about their issues with a spouse, a friend, a relative, a colleague, a neighbour even their pet! Then turn against you when you show your support and loyalty when you act just the way you'd expect someone who 'claims' to be loyal to you to. So you give the 'culprits' (offending or causing harm to the person your loyal to) the cold shoulder,shut them up even before they start 'hating' on your loved one though at times they are really just telling their side of the story,throw daggers at them with your eyes or even threaten to cripple them if they cause your loved one any more harm or unhappiness.

Then your loved one ends up treating you like the villain! And your left wondering how in the world you could be so hopelessly loyal and get burnt because of it! Then other downside is that no one stands up for you when shit hits the fan or when push comes to shove. Everyone appears to believe the other party concerned or believe the worst about you in the situation. So what if you made a mistake or said the worst thing possible? I'm human! And I'm a work in progress! I never said I'm perfect! I never said I don't or won't make mistakes! Plus I know I lack tolerance and I'm a really bad listener plus I have someone else inside me I believe when I get angry who just ties me up and literally jumps out and handles the person offending or annoying me. Just to name but a few of my faults. But you who runs off to call me a mean bitch! Or go on to preach how horrible a person i am and how you are such a victim in the whole scenario. How are you any better? Honestly projecting how you've been victimized isn't honest or genuine. Its pity you'll get and the what? Will it make you any closer to God or make you any better? Do you what the people your preaching to about me say after your gone about you?! Because your thinking is so already biased! Time ALWAYS unearths the truth and genuine characters no matter how badly slandered will always land on their feet.

              Yours sincerely;

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GROWTH

First and foremost, i am NOT perfect to be very CLEAR; and no one else out there is.
I have had to fight battles very many out there don't need to and some have no idea that such battles even exist to be fought in the first place.


Never once have i not fought them because i chose to take pity on myself.
Or take a hit during the fighting and stayed down to avoid getting back up and fighting some more.
I'm furthest from the strongest man on earth for sure but the fights i'm talking about aren't just physical.
I've had to fight emotional, mental and even spiritual battles.
Most of these battles would give me sleepless nights and even make me jumpy of even a housefly flying around.
My education has taken severe hits from these battles but i never dropped out of school.
I would lose people i would confide in with reasons best known to themselves.


I'm a serious piece of work in progress. That i cannot deny either.
But this particular piece of work is shaping up quite well. Why??
Because i can accept when i have made mistakes.
I can accept when i hurt and even cry nowadays which i could hardly do before.
I don't blame myself when people walk out when im in a dark place and having withdrawal syndrome where it can even jeopardize your relationship when your spouse jumps to the conclusion that your energy and affection is directed elsewhere.
I no longer have to insist on speaking my unfiltered mind just because i have a mouth and a loud voice to speak with.
I can now finally be civilized and cordial to people i don't like or people that aren't treating my family, spouse and even my few friends right. Before it was all personal. You mess with any of my loved and woe unto you. Wether my loved one was on the wrong or not. As long as they are hurting and you are behind it the whole ball game would turn nasty.
Now i know fighting people's battles is at times genuinely unnecessary. Everyone needs to grow from their own mistakes and experiences at some point and shielding them in most cases is just interfering with that.

Plus a whole lot has happened and people who appeared like the coolest and cleanest waters are actually the murkiest. So the saying that claims don't judge a book by its cover is no joke.

I have simply learnt that i can hold my head highest when everyone is expecting my head to fall off.
I have learnt not to give up on my loved ones even if they give up on me. That's their own cross to carry.
Giving up on someone who's made you irrevocably happy at some point in your life because they've made 1 mistake or 2 is a cross you will have to carry when you realize the grass was never greener on the other side.
I don't give up on easily on anyone i love......no matter what. Maybe that's a problem but its a problem i don't regret having because i have someone who has never given up on me no matter what. I have been at my absolute WORST. And that person has never left. My actions might have embarrassed and brought shame or even hurt to that person and that person keeps giving me even better opportunities than the previous ones.
We don't need even two people. We all need that one person that will look us in the eyes and tell us how full of shit we are. The person that chew our heads off when we go astray and even look the other way for a few days but look back at us and reassure us how full of shit we are and even yell our eardrums off some more  but later give us a hug or a kiss and be the crutches we need to get back up and make things work.

Yours;
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             (MOTHER’S DAY DELAYED SPECIAL)

My mother,

The most amazing woman on the planet alive today. Many of you are going to roll your eyes or be convinced this all sounds so cliché. But if you have been reading any of my previous titles you would have noticed by now that sugar coating anything or anyone was left to Willy Wonker of the chocolate factory.

                                                 

Back to basics…..i have watched my mother touch thousands of lives every other day without asking for anything in return. I’ve watched scoundrels, strays ,hypocrites walk into her life in droves and misuse her and the resources she has to offer then disappear after wrecking havoc in her home. Leaving her to pick up the pieces and to repair her house alone. And she does it. ALONE.  Ofcourse she’s human and she hurts and she cries but she still gets up, wipes her tears and reconstructs her house and picks up the pieces of shattered glass and feelings left all around the house and compound.

My mother isn’t perfect. That’s one thing I need to establish with the entire world before I write anything else. She isn’t perfect! Far from it. She’s PHENOMENAL. My mother was blessed with BEAUTY. TIMELESS BEAUTY. CLASSIC BEAUTY. Which she inherited from her own BEAUTIFUL mother who was even crowned “Miss Machakos” back in 1957. A county now back in Kenya. We had the misfortune of losing her in November last year but her memory lives on for giving me my mother. Without her I would probably have ended up elsewhere.

My mother’s beauty is only a tiny part of her phenomenal self. She is INTELLIGENT. She doesn’t have 50 degrees under her belt but those mean nothing when it comes to dealing with everything I’ve witnessed her deal with. My mother is the 3^rd born of 7 children and she has lost all her beloved 3 sisters. As if that trial wasn’t enough…..she was left with the custody of their children and they are six of them. Now adding to her already four daughters…that equals to 10children and four of them are boys. A mother who had no idea how to raise boys and had absolutely no experience either but still she took it in stride. But as life might always throws lemons at us….my mother’s marriage crumbled. Still mourning her siblings and adjusting to raising boys plus helping the children in dealing with their mothers’ loss….she lost her marriage and us her children because we felt like we had lost our mother to our cousins. Personally, I Gertrude went literally bananas. My education suffered. I stopped caring. I started a rebellious stage and went all out!! Before we could digest our mother wasn’t going to be our mother alone. That God had given her more children to also be a mother to…my mother re-married. I totally lost it. I was confused because we hadn’t even gotten used to our parents living apart. It all happened so fast! It left us reeling in despair, confusion and hurt. I was embarrassed aswel. Then all my complicated feelings together with puberty turned into ANGER. All those other emotions were obviously way too complicated and too many for me at that time. I blamed my dad for letting her get married to someone else. I blamed my mother for being selfish and not giving dad a chance. Then I blamed my new stepdad for stealing any chance of my parents getting back together.

All this time my mother didn’t explain anything to me because it would have probably been useless. I was way too naïve to have understood but she had my back. She didn’t judge me. We quarreled ofcourse. She punished me a whole lot and when I kept getting suspended from school she always received me with open arms.  I realize now I didn’t make life easy for her when I should have. I was busy blaming her for being selfish yet I was the epitome of selfishness myself.

 Not long after; a close friend of hers passes on and leaves her beloved daughter in her hands……that brings us to 11 children. By this time I was settled in at campus and had my head wrapped around my neck tight! So as not to lose it again. I had my future to look forward to. My mother had lived her life and she was way too burdened to have me running amock again. My mother does all this not asking even for help from any of the other children’s relatives. And some even have their fathers alive. Now you tell me if that’s not PHENOMENAL in this day and age with such a lousy economy.

My mother never once sugar coated anything for me. At 8years I could cross the road with my younger sisters in my care. And we would get to the other side fine. Even if it took 5hours and my sisters got impatient or called me blind cause I have an eyesight issue. At 9years I could take public transport to and fro my mother’s work place and auties’ houses. By 10years I was cooking all sorts of meals and baking even for her guests when she’s just supervising with her eyes. Even laying the table and serving the guests without her lifting a finger. Why? Because she knew she had done an excellent job with her 1^st girl. Anyone who has tasted my cooking can certify I had the best teacher…mommy dearest.

She never ever asks for help. She has been hurt by people she trusted and even us her children and the adopted ones. She has been betrayed time without number. She has seen her businesses hit dead ends and with 15 mouths to feed she couldn’t afford not to revive them somehow. I have seen her hit rock bottom but for only 24hours max! She picks herself up knowing she is the engine of the family and can’t afford to sulk and throw around pity parties. She gets up early everyday and goes to sleep after ensuring no one has slept hungry or sick. And the best part about it is she NEVER EVER gives up on any of us!! For all of us who have failed in one aspect of our lives she doesn’t sleep until she’s gotten us an even more lucrative plan B. The way her brain shifts gears leaves me in awe. Her not backing down from all the challenges being thrown at her inspires me. Her industrious and innovative nature highly motivates me.

Iam who iam today because of my mother. Sitting around mopping and sulking?! It better not be around her because you will have an earful of facts you won’t want to hear or accept. My mother has made her fair share of mistakes no doubt but all I know is I’m abundantly BLESSED for having a mother like mine. Not forgetting the fact that she has never given up on me. So y’all best stop wondering where my huge take charge personality and boisterous self comes from. My mother clearly passed on some of it or is it most of it?! Hehehe.

My mother has even adopted 2 more children who aren’t family as I write this but she’s fine. She’s the epitome of STRENGTH. She’s AMAZING. She’s PHENOMENAL (I insist). The best part above all is she’s MY MOTHER.

I LOVE YOU MUM. I’m BLESSED to have you as my mother and totally proud to be your daughter. And not just any daughter but the 1^ST. You make life beautiful with your charm, unique sense of humor, passion for life, affinity to beautiful things, your obvious sarcarsm, generosity and selflessness.  

I wouldn’t be who iam today causing so much harm with my giant personality, strong mind, double edged tongue and zero tolerance for the people thriving on weakness and people throwing endless pity parties instead of doing something about it without your genes.

You will always be the envy of many because you did an excellent job here. And the fact that your way too awesome to be true. People will always throw stones at things that shine and you just shine even brighter creating blindness to their negativity.

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PERSONALLY.......HYGEINICALLY....

GIRLS!!    BOYS!!   LADIES!!    AND    GENTLEMEN!!

Life is too SHORT  and too PRECIOUS  to live it like a BORROWER of God’s grace!!!

We are all aware of the word ‘hygeine’ and what it means; but im still going to go to the trouble of explaining it for ignorant folk.

Hygiene is a set of practices performed for the preservation of health. While in modern medical sciences there is a set of standards of hygiene recommended for different situations, what is considered hygienic or not can vary between different cultures, genders and etarian groups. Some regular hygienic practices may be considered good habits by a society while the neglect of hygiene can be considered disgusting, disrespectful or even threatening. 

We have all shared something we probably shouldn’t with our loved ones i.e; sister,brother,friends and even spouses and most times its OK but what happens when one has a contagious skin condition or has gone off and carried a particular bacteria from their own personal extra curricular activities?

I have experienced and watched girls who are friends and some claiming to be share the most personal items. It doesn’t matter if that person looks clean. Looks have always been deceiving!  Things like lipsticks and lip glosses plus lip balms…..my fellow ladies do have any idea where the other ladies’ mouths have been? They could have been kissing a much less desired mouth or used their mouths for many other things that your own lip accessories shouldn’t be around it let alone being used by it! Do you even know when that mouth was last brushed?? Because there's always minty gum that works to keep bad breath at bay so how can you confirm that person is as clean as you are?

Another disturbing thing I have noticed is the sharing of bathing body scrubs. The ones we soap and use to scrub our bodies ‘EVERYWHERE’.

And by ‘EVERYWHERE’ I mean……EVERYWHERE. So how does someone come out of nowhere and because you have some sort of relationship they believe its okay to grab it and start scrubbing their own bodies with it?! I have no idea how and what you could have used your body for and neither do I specifically know of your health’s intimate details! So please….let's respect each others’ personal effects and promote personal hygiene.  There are others that go to the strangest lengths and even jump into someone else’s panties and bras or even grab lingerie to go out their spouses. For those who practice that type of callous behavior…how do you know of my cleanliness?! How do you know my spouse is equally ‘clean’ or ‘healthy’?? Does it mean you really trust me or you just like my things that I go to the trouble of buying and you just have to put me through the spending to replace it. Because even if we both trust each other and you never return the ‘borrowed’ item what should I believe? There are people out there who just love people’s items. A hardwired trait that needs elimination. But that’s a story for another day.

Men and boys who share shoes or shirts, vests, socks and some appalingly even boxers.....you never if the other guy has fungus and works extra hard to keep it a secret. and for boxers......that just spells 'disgusting' in all languages under the sun.

Another thing shared the most is HEELS!! Ladies! Those have never been meant to be shared. They are another quite personal effect. All heels are manufactured the same way but once you buy it and strut around in it you’ve customized it to your walking and your body weight whether sober or drunk. So now you share it with a friend who is the same size and she has no balance of her own and since the shoes have been customized to your body and feet she struggles to fit them to her own feet and walk plus weight and balance. Then she fails then of course the shoe comes back with a wobbling heel and who do you have to blame? People will talk and say you are selfish or mean but at the end of the day its your loss! And no one helps you buy them except maybe your spouse who for sure will never need them or even think of wearing them. There’s generosity and then there is foolery. Where do you stand?

                                                                                    Yours PERSONALLY;

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